- You’ve been warned
- Life with a meth addict can be complicated
- The Past
- The Present
- The momsense
- The randoms
- Sometimes being a single mom blows
- Contact SingleMama CC..unless you’re an asshole in which case, don’t fucking bother me
- Till Meth Do Us Part…..formally known as The Book of Meth
- Wtf is the PIT anyway?!
This post will NOT teach you how to scoop your driveway with a baby strapped to your chest because its a BAD idea.
This post may however, make you stop and think…..
Do you ever just help someone out simply because you can?
Have you ever wondered what kind of people you might be helping by paying it forward?
People like me…
Have you ever tried to shovel your snow packed driveway with a 9 month old in a snowsuit strapped to your chest because if you leave her in the house alone you can’t see her…and what if she gets into the draino that you have up in the highest cupboard babyproofed and all but still WHAT IF?!?
Or what if your psycho ex tries to steal her when you’re not looking AGAIN.
I’m the only one that has attempted to shovel a driveway with a baby strapped to em?!
FML..aka the Book of Meth
**I also tried to mow the lawn with her then 3-4 month old butt strapped to me. It got very hot considering I had to cover her so lawn chunks wouldn’t land on her and I’m a dumbass and cover her with a blanket and I almost die from the heat of a July sun, a squirmy baby, a gawddamn blanket and a push mower.**
Not my best ideas but really wtf else is a single mom with a house that needs upkeep supposed to do?
My food stamps?!
I’m broke-hiring someone is not an option.
It was still snowing and blowing one cold winter day..so much that I couldn’t take the PIT out there even in her snowsuit, but yet I had to get the driveway clear enough to get to work.
I strapped her in her car seat and set her in front of the door so I could see her and when I couldn’t see her I’d scoop & check, scoop & check…and then cry.
I remember thinking “this is ridiculous.”
I was exhausted.
Working full time at the hospital till midnight, taking care of a baby, a house, and watching my back for my psycho ex was wearing me the fuck out.
I think I made like 1.25 ft of progress in my scoop & check attempts when they showed up.
They were Desi & Adam.
Desi was my savior…she was my neighbor, the PITs babysitter and a genuine friend.
Desi & Adam were in my driveway with a snowblower ready and willing to save me & my tiny twig arms from the obnoxiously heavy snow.
Desi was the one I could ALWAYS count on.
Desi doesn’t blog or I would have given her a #betterbasket. Instead I decided to share just how awesome she is:)
There’s never been a single time Desi left me hanging and as any struggling single mama can tell you…..that is one thing you need the most.
Desi helped me in the most fuc*ked up years of my life…..not because she had to but simply because she could. She was able and most of all–she cared. She saw me struggling and OFFERED me a helping hand.
I will never forget the day that Desi & Adam showed up with the snowblower…or the sense of…”Oh thank God..a break!” that washed over me as I went back in the house, unbundled myself, unstrapped the PIT and we snuggled up together….
Desi, I know that I have told you thank you several thousand times. Its still not enough…there is no way I could ever explain to you how grateful I am.
The best that I can do is teach the PIT to pay it forward the way that you always have done.
You my dear Desi….are an inspiration to me.
I do teach the PIT to pay it forward in everything she does and I must say….the kid is damn good at it.
Her genuine kindness shows in all she does….I KNOW that I did not teach her that on my own.
She’s learned it by living on both sides of the fence.
The PIT goes to a volunteer group at school and the group goes to the local food shelf…she LOVES going there because she knows she is helping people.
What she doesnt know is that sometimes….the people she’s helping…is me.
Does she need to know that there are times when we would have no food if it werent for the food shelves?
I dont think so….all she needs to know is that she is helping and doing good.
She’s happiest when she is helping others.
That’s what happens when you pay it forward…..kids catch on…teach them well~