Atta girl

By CC On June 5, 2012 · 5 Comments

Today at school the PIT’s class started working on their Father’s Day gifts.

(See why kids shouldn’t be in school past May 31st?!)

Father’s Day, as with anything involving the word “father” makes my stomach turn and is a touchy subject with the PIT

I braced myself for her tears as she brought up the subject…….

I braced myself for the questions I never want to answer, the talks I never want to have and of course…more tears…

Instead there were no tears, no questions, no drama at all…..

She told her teacher (and later, me) that she was making her Father’s Day gift for me and that when the teacher asked her if she had any males in her life who might “act” like a father,

she told the teacher “no, but I have an uncle in Wisconsin and a Hippie in Minnesota….but I also have an Auntie in MN and a Nana in South Dakota but my mom takes care of me the way a mom and dad would but all by herself so she deserves a Father’s Day gift and that’s why I’m making this one for her”

And I was suddenly so filled with love and so very proud of my girl for standing her ground and HOLDING it.

Also, the teacher & I have a meeting to discuss this “acting” like a father male influence crap. I will not have my daughter clinging on to the nearest male simply because she’s been influenced to think that she needs that. Although it’s a nice idea…the whole positive male influence…..but it’s not always the way it works.

Tagged with: dad • i should be more medicated than i am • influences • motherhood • the PIT

5 Responses to Atta girl

Carolina says:

June 6, 2012 at 3:25 am

Your kid rocks! And why does the teacher need to discuss this with you? Is she really the only child of a single parent in the classroom? The way divorce rates are these days, I really doubt that.

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Kim @ This Belle Rocks says:

June 15, 2012 at 12:34 am

Yeah, that teacher had no right prying like that, or trying to make her think she needs a father (or any man) in her life…..though I am sure her intentions were good, that could have easily gone an entirely different way.

I bet the only tears that came were yours when she told you she was making her Father’s Day gift for YOU. The PIT rocks

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Rachel says:

June 19, 2012 at 1:33 am

That’s fan-freaking-tastic! This was my first Father’s Day, and I stayed inside all day with Mr. Moo (my 9 mo. old baby) terrified that whatshisface would show up. We’re in the process of fleeing… have had a RO in place since I was 8 mos. pregnant, but he knows where we live, so after next week, we’ll be gone. Can hardly wait! I’m so happy I found this blog too… I don’t feel nearly so alone now. I get the guilt from “well-meaning” people all the time too. It’s really judgy and hateful. Blech.

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Greatestmomever says:

June 21, 2012 at 3:38 am

You are clearly rockin it out Yaay for you – Celebrate it! We have created our own tradition every year on father’s day. We go to a bridge festival in our town and at some point during the day I smile, look at my son and say; “Aren’t we lucky to have each other? You know, I am kind of like the mom and the dad.” He always smiles, and will say something in agreement. And in that moment of anxiety I try to focus my mind on ch 16 in the big book. “And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today…” -

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Tania says:

July 25, 2012 at 2:25 am

You have such an amazing daughter….and it is because YOU are such an amazing mother! I can only hope that when someday we reach a situation like this my daughter will also handle it just as strongly. And hopefully I can fight back the tears….

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